It’s time for a checkup; like when a warning lights up your dashboard indicating you need to check the tires, oil, engine, coolant, etc. Well, every relationship especially marriage – needs a warning light too. Unfortunately we sometimes don’t get a warning light until the relationship is far beyond repair.
In December 2013, the world shifted in Utah when Judge Shelby made a monumental decision allowing gays to marry. Everyone was in a flurry and a flutter. Was this for real? How long did we have? Why the rush and the race? Which counties are being progressive and which ones leery? Would the marriages be long-lasting or challenged? Would we finally get this huge achievement in civil rights that we had so long been fighting for? Need we be in such a hurry? Are we taking the necessary time to check against all odds before rushing into the fray?
Fast forward to 2016, many who had long-awaited, never dreaming the day would actually occur, jumped into marriage. Some having weighed all odds, others because a loophole had been opened, and it was a now or never decision with long-lasting outcomes. Hope sprung with every Facebook post, every email, every newspaper article, every online story about Utah legally allowing gays to marry. Hope was abundant and the victory, although unexpected, was upon us all. Gay and straight supporters reveled in the happiness and joy of getting closer to full equality.
I am still hopeful because I can now see so many of us and we can all see more and more of us. Closets are disappearing everywhere. Some gays fear that legal marriage will assimilate us, but I predict just the opposite. Our culture will flourish mightily and even more imaginatively. It’s no wonder our enemies are worried by such potential power. This hope excites me.
But how healthy is your relationship? The following are two lists: one with healthy relationship characteristics and the other with unhealthy ones. All relationships have a combination of both. The point is to seriously consider the traits on each list and determine where focus should be paid to keep the majority on the healthy side. Hopefully this is an excellent way to gain appreciation for the best things and collectively decide what you want to change. I suggest both members in the relationship examine the lists separately and then come together to have a civil and loving discussion about your findings.
Enduring gay marriage is societal measurement; a legacy we all have to seriously do a regular “engine” check. Marriage is a bonding. Bonds are to be taken seriously. Bonds are the first thing we should consider when it comes to marital integrity.
Healthy and Unhealthy Relationship Lists. Check mark those that are warning lights on your relationship
Is it Healthy?
Is it Unhealthy?
Sooooo…YES or NO?
We are a happy couple.
We are a couple who fully creates and knows regular joy.
We are a couple who honestly addresses our worries and concerns.
We are a couple that evaluates our relationship and regularly communicates about it.
We are a hopeful couple regarding the future.
We are equal because we are now married.
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