Replace the traditional New Year’s resolutions that you probably won’t keep (I know how hard it is to stick to an everyday gym routine when it’s arctic degrees outside) with something more meaningful — like committing to ways to be a better queer. Here’s a shortlist to get you started.
- Give more of your time to local LGBTQ orgs
Most communities have an LGBTQ support center, but you might not know it if you’re not seeking LGBTQ support. Still, it’s there, and it may need your help. In 2018, make it a point to pop in to offer your assistance. Maybe you can volunteer your time for an upcoming event; attend an activity (I had a fun evening at drag bingo hosted by my local center recently), mentor LGBTQ youth who desperately need responsible, caring adults in the lives; or offer financial support to keep the center’s valuable programs on track. For many of these organizations, just opening the doors on a daily basis is a struggle, and they will appreciate every hour and dollar donated by community members like you.
- Support an LGBTQ film festival
I’ve attended several LGBTQ film festivals over the years including in my hometown of Baltimore and my current home of Asbury Park, N.J. Most recently though was the OUTshine Film Festival (which is top-notch, by the way), both in Miami and Fort Lauderdale, Florida — and these programs are the only place you’ll find a conscientious slate of curated films that represent the entire queer community in one mega-celebration of diversity filmmaking.
If your home city doesn’t offer a film festival, maybe it’s time you and your group of go-getters put the wheels in motion to establish one. Otherwise, travel to the LGBTQ film festival near you — or plan a vacay around this affair — so we can all continue to push LGBTQ movies into mainstream consciousness. Hollywood will take notice of our full breadth of films eventually, as it has in the past 18 months with “Moonlight,” “Call Me By Your Name,” and the groundbreaking gay-teen romance “Love, Simon,” in theaters nationwide on March 15 (which is a big frickin’ deal, if you don’t already know).
- Serve as a mentor for LGBTQ youth
It seems like the world is a more accepting place than ever for LGBTQ youth (and on the whole it is), but there are still kids who struggle not only with their sexual orientation and identity but also with acceptance of friends, family, teachers, etc. — that’s where you come in. If you’re a successful queer person, contact your local school district to find out how you can speak at Gay-Straight Alliance meetings to let these youth who may be having a hard time know that it does, in fact, get better. Moreover, programs like Live Out Loud’s Homecoming Project helps connect high school alumni to their alma maters, making it easier for you to reach out and inspire. You’ll make a more significant difference than you realize, I promise.
- Spend more money at LGBTQ-owned businesses
I’m not recommending you stop spending your money at hetero-owned businesses, though I’m sure there’s a faction of us out there who would suggest that – but instead take some time to research your local retailers and restaurants to see who’s family. Many times you can glean this information by word of mouth or just a little digging on social media. When we support each other personally and professionally, our communities are stronger. Just look at what we did to San Francisco. And New York. And Los Angeles. And Miami.
- Stand up for yourself and your sexual orientation
Don’t let people put you down, and don’t let anyone make you hide in the closet, period. Actress Marsha Warfield recently relayed an anecdote about how she’s been out privately forever, but her mother didn’t want her to come out publicly because she’d be embarrassed by it.
Whitney Houston dealt with the same issue, as do countless other ordinary people. Fuck that, okay. It is your life, you get one shot at it, and if anyone is embarrassed by who you are, you should feel confident enough in yourself to tell that sad, angry person that you will only be better without them. You don’t need that shit. It’s 2018, honey. Fucking LIVE!
Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He splits his time between homes in New York City and the Jersey Shore with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.